The Stepford Wives and the ideal MGTOW society

Originally written for Minds.com on July 2nd, 2018.

I remember having seen The Stepford Wives some four years ago (for reference I am obviously referring to the 1975 original, not the unbearably kitschy 2004 remake), and I'm sure we're all aware of what the film is about, though for those who haven't let me run down the TL;DR. The film is a sci-fi thriller based on Ira Levin's novel about a housewife and her husband who move to Stepford, an idyllic suburban community in Connecticut wherein all the other housewives are quite vapid and incredibly submissive to their husbands in every conceivable way. Of course, it turns out that all the housewives are gynoid replicas, programmed to obey the whims of the men of Stepford.

Although the film wasn't too well received by critics back in its heyday, it became enough of a hit that the term "Stepford wife" is now a part of our modern lexicon,  It was a good film, and quite a fascinating one at that. I'll admit that it moved at a bit too leisurely a pace, but it's a standout film, not least because its pretty effective in communicating its message in an entertaining film. To be blunt, the message of The Stepford Wives is nakedly feminist. The whole point of Stepford is that it is a patriarchy by design wherein the women are quite literally objects whose raison d'être to fulfil the needs and fantasies of their male masters. However I find that this film, unlike some later feminist films, was not overly heavy-handed in its message, though never loses sight of it. Stepford is very effectively used as the petri dish for an ideal right-wing, patriarchal society.

Which brings me to the sort of people who might desire such a society most of all - MGTOWs. Now you might be thinking that this contradicts the very name of their ideology, "Men Going Their Own Way" (and for some reason their own way always seems to be whining on the Internet about who they're oppressed because they can't get a date), but consider the following.

The primary reason a MGTOW wants to drop out of society is that they are convinced that, thanks to feminism, no woman wants to go out with them. They're convinced that feminism has made women into promiscuous, greedy, vain, self-serving harpies that want nothing more than to use men, usually for money. Of course they never follow such phenomenon to its source, otherwise they discover that the fault lies with capitalism, which makes everyone at least a little greedier, but I digress. Imagine for a moment that mainstream society as a whole was exactly like Stepford, Connecticut, only robots wouldn't be needed because the woman would obey willingly. This is the society that deep down your average MGTOW really wants, which it could be argued is the reverse of what radical feminists want. If such a society existed, I guarantee you that the MGTOWs would want to get in on the ground floor.

It's not entirely inaccurate, if you really think about it. As my experience tells me, when you encounter a MGTOW they will likely be some variety of right-winger, even if they may insist that they aren't. This makes sense since, like other aspects of the so-called manosphere, MGTOWs have been incredibly receptive to talking points offered by the resurgent right, as represented by such sterling reactionaries as Jordan Peterson, Tucker Carlson and Stefan Molyneux. Though they may not admit it, the MGTOWs have quite a bit in common with conservatives, right down to their belief in a prelapsarian golden age in which all was right with the world, before those horrible feminists and civil rights activists cultural Marxists had their way with the world.

Consider also that the housewives of Stepford are gynoids - synthetic women that may be used by men for companionship, pleasure, or both. If you're the Dave Cullen type of conservative (and if so may God help you for you are a lost soul), you would likely assert that the rising popularity of gynoids is a direct consequence of the damage feminism has in your view done to gender relations, and you wouldn't be the first. This idea has been in vogue in the anti-feminist movement since Milo Yiannopoulos' articles on "The Sexodus" were published on Brietbart back in 2014.

Because a gynoid has no feelings, no will of its own, only programming, form and function, it presents a good alternative sexual outlet for MGTOWs, and pretty much anyone else convinced that they can never have sex with a real woman because they're too disloyal and selfish for their tastes. Why would they need real women when a Stepford-style gynoid has everything they want in a woman, but without the ability to think on their own and thus unable to resist? Of course there are always gynoids like Samantha, which throw a spanner into the works by actually having the ability to say "no".

That little detail aside, however, I think it is entirely possible to imagine a scenario in which a group of MGTOWs decide to establish their own society in much the same vein as Stepford (maybe going so far as to call it Stepford without a shred of irony), in which they're in charge of their own off the grid patriarchal commune, and instead of bothering to attract real women, they'll spend the rest of their lives with reliably obedient gynoids. It would perhaps be the ultimate expression of the MGTOW dream of male self-independence, and they actually would be going their own way for a change. When they have such a society, don't be surprised when they suddenly decide that everything's fine, because MGTOW was never about changing the status quo in the first place.

When Ira Levin wrote his novel about an idyllic suburban community in which all the wives are robots, and when Bryan Forbes turned it into a cult film a few years later, I doubt either of them could have imagined that what we might objectively see as a dystopian reactionary nightmare could, in theory, easily be imagined as a representation of the way things ought to be. But, when analysing the film some four decades later, with the cultural and political context of the present, it is not entirely hard to envision such a possibility.